23 Things I’ve Learned In 23 Years : A Birthday Blog Post Part 2

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I started writing my previous post on my birthday only to realise that it was getting a bit too long for a single post and decided to split it into two parts. You can read part 1 of my birthday blog post here.

So coming back to my list of things that life has taught me these past few years.

13. Never take anything for granted.

People, situations and life may change suddenly. Never take what you have right now for granted. There are so many people out there who do not have what you do.

14. Be content.

Never think about what others have. To be happy, you need to be content with what you have. Envying and jealousy is just a down way spiral.

15. Social media can lie.

There are some who paint up their lives beautifully on social media. Hype it up and we look at that and wish for our lives to just as eventful. What we need to know is people only put up the things they want us to see.

16. Do not change yourself others.

Never ever change yourself in order to be accepted by someone you want to impress. Do not loose your originality because you want to “fit in”.

17. Spend money on things that matter.

Everyday we are fed advertisements that tell us what to buy and what to eat and where to go. When you first start earning you will be tempted to spend on impulses but don’t. Food, clothing and bills. This is what is a priority whether you live alone or not. This helps you live a better life.

18. Its okay to not work in your field of study.

I graduated with a degree in Hospitality Management and now work in Finance. Why? Because once I left the comfort of college I realised that the Hotel scene was not for me. It is okay to change your field of work if you aren’t comfortable doing it.

19. Its okay to not graduate “on time”

Sometimes things happen, you may have to repeat a year of college and graduate a year behind everybody else. And that okay! You may not even want to continue with your chosen stream in college and that is fine too. Find what you love and do it.

20. Adulting is beautiful but alarming.

Adulting. Will never get used to it but I love it in a way. Being old enough to be responsible for yourself is what being an adult is all about. Ofcourse, there are the bills that need paying and the food that needs cooking. But we aren’t children forever and someday we all need to grow up. Instead of complaining about being an adult and having to do all the work, look at the bright side of being an adult. And relax, no one can “adult” better than the other, we’re all still learning.

21. Never do anything for “the gram”.

Never NEVER do anything for social media if you can’t afford it. That is horrible finance management right there. If you can’t afford the daily coffee at a coffee shop but do it in order to keep up appearances then stop!

22. Before everything else take care of yourself.

Take care of yourself mentally, spiritually and physically. Don’t hesitate to ask for help if you feel you need it. If you don’t want to do something then don’t until you’re ready. You will not enjoy life unless you are happy and well.

23. Be yourself.

Never be fake. Never be fake in order to impress people or get that job or to gain a larger following online. Be who you are. Because being yourself is everything that matters to anyone you meet. No one likes someone fake.

So here’s what I’ve learned over the years. And hope next year will be a good one.

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23 Things I’ve Learned In 23 Years : A Birthday Blog Post Part 1

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Today was my birthday! 23 years alive on this planet. I’ve been an adult for 5 years now, still haven’t really gotten used to the “adulting” part of it yet. I’m still and will always be a kid at heart.

But being alive for so long has made me go through a lot of experiences. Some of which I wish I knew when I was younger. Would have saved me from a lot of heartache and wasted tears growing up.

Here’s what I’ve learned over time,

1. It’s okay to not have a “squad” of girlfriends.

The movies, the media, the magazines. Everything tells us that if we don’t have a squad of girlfriends to travel the world with then we’re doing something wrong. In my experience (and no offence intended) the more girlfriends you have, the more drama you open yourself up to. It’s completely okay to not have a bunch of girls hovering around you all the time.

2. It’s okay to not have a “best friend”

Let’s just say I have not been lucky in the “best friend” department. Wherever I’d look I’d see two young women who were inseparable and always had their backs which made me feel that I needed one too. But when you put in all your trust and emotions in one single person its calling for a disaster (unless the bond between the two of you is so strong to overcome everything. Then I really envy you). Whoever I’ve labelled my “best friend” has always turned out to be heartbreaking in the end. Makes me feel that it’s all overrated.

3. Time doesn’t mean you know a person.

Knowing someone for x number of years doesn’t mean you know them. Times change and so do people. We are all constantly changing and aren’t the same people we were a year ago. You might think you know someone just because you’ve known them since school but in the end you may get surprised.

4. Holding a grudge never works.

Grudges, we’ve all held one at some point of time in our lives. But there truly isn’t any point in doing it. I’ve realised the minute I forgive and let go of what has happened I feel better both physically and mentally.

5. Forgive, but never forget.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetfulness. Someone may do you wrong. Forgive them but don’t let yourself fall into the same situation again. Learn from it and build yourself up.

6. Above everything else there is family.

There is no bigger bond than that of family. Ever since my father passed away in 2008, it’s just been my mother, brother and I. We may have our disagreements now and then like every family does. But in the end we know who we can fall back on when we need help. Family is always there no matter what happens in your life.

7. Stay away from toxic people.

Sometimes you meet a person who was once close to you but has turned toxic. Stay away from such a person. No matter how much it may hurt, don’t waste your time and emotions on someone who is hurting you mentally.

8. It’s okay to take a break sometimes.

We all try to hustle harder every single day. Sometimes it’s okay to take a break if you aren’t feeling up to it. If you feel you need a break from a person, stay away. If work is stressing you out, take the day off. Taking a break rejuvenates the body in unspeakable ways.

9. Life may not turn out as you expect.

I would always try to map out my life. Making a plan made me feel I am in control. But that’s not how it works. Sometimes life has a way to change and move in ways you cannot understand but in the end everything has a purpose.

10. Everything happens for the best.

What I’ve noticed is things always happen for the best. You didn’t get the job you really wanted, but later on found out that if you did you’d have to move out of the country. You missed your bus to work, but if you did catch that bus you’d get stuck in a traffic jam for hours. We may not know it at the time, but whatever happens to us will always happen for a reason. We might not know that reason soon and it may take us years to find out. But every thing that happens, happens for the best.

11. Don’t live your life to please others.

Live your life and do things not because someone told you to, do it because you want to do it for yourself. Trust me, knowing you’re doing something because you wanted to makes all the difference.

12. Don’t care about what people think.

Trying to always be in everyone’s good books is a HUGE and tiring task. Instead, use that energy in doing what you love and never bother about what will people say. People will always talk, they have nothing else to do. Want to wear that dress? Wear it! Want to colour your hair a dramatic mermaid colour? Do it! Will the general public criticise you for it?They might. But if they do so what? Don’t let being afraid of what will people think about you prevent you from living your life!

(As I write this I realise it’s going to be a long post so I’ve decided to split it into two different posts. I’ll upload part 2 soon)

Do you agree with my thoughts so far? Have you learned any thing in your life that you wish you could tell your younger self?

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My Blogging Story

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Seven years ago I started my very first blog. I had a lot of time on my hands before the new school year started. A friend of mine discovered Blogger and showed it to me one afternoon. Back then, I had no idea what a “Blog” was or how big the blogging community is worldwide. The idea of creating my own website for free intrigued me.

I came home that evening and using my google account I created my own blog. I used to read a lot and decided I would use my blog to write book reviews. It didn’t last long and with school work I never had the amount of time I needed to maintain one. But even though I couldn’t have one of my own at the time I was still curious. I read up on everything I could find on blogging. For some reason the topic interested me and I never forgot about it.

Fast forward to two years later and I had just graduated from high school. I had a few months free before college and had no idea what to do with the sudden free time on my hands. It was then when I remembered about my old blog and I went back to it.

By now I had learnt a lot about blogging and the various platforms that can be used. Blogger was great for me at the start, but I wanted more. I wanted to be able to customize and have more control over the look of my website. This was when I decided to move to WordPress. I made the switch and created my second blog which I used until this month when I decided to go self-hosted.

Blogging is my passion. It helps me grow and makes me happy. Through my blog I have interacted with people from all over the world. It is a lifestyle that I’m sure I will continue for as long as I can.

So here’s to a new blog. A new beginning and another chapter in my blogging story.

What is your blogging story? What got you into blogging?

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